Information for Parents
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Resources for Parents to Protect Their Children and Adolescents
“Protecting Your Child in an X-Rated World: What you need to know to make a difference.” By Frank York & Jan LaRue
Protecting Your Child in an X-Rated World is an informative guide for adults concerned about children and pornography. Well researched by pornography awareness experts, this book gives facts to inform and action steps to keep kids safe. Describing the special vulnerability of children to the pervasive nature of pornography, the book tells how to "porn-proof" the home and oppose pornography in the community and schools, and gives hope for children already exposed to pornography. Appendixes are included for legal reference, Internet filtering devices, and other resources to protect children.
“Theology of His Body/Theology of Her Body” by Jason Evert
In this book which utilizes a dynamic, flip book design to be two books in one well-known chastity speaker and author Jason Evert unpacks the mystery of what is means to be male and female in light of the Theology of the Body in a language teenagers understand. Teens will learn about the profound realities to which their bodies point and how to live chastely and lovingly towards those of the opposite sex. (Note: this is a unique flip book where you have TOB for His Body on the cover, then you flip it over and it is TOB for Her Body, so 2 in 1.)
Real Love” by Mary Beth Bonacci
In this newly updated and expanded edition of Real Love, Mary Beth shares those questions-and her answers-in an even more comprehensive guide which addresses the details of the very real struggle we all face in trying to live real love in a world gone mad. Through these questions and her answers, Mary Beth offers a comprehensive catechesis of the Church's teaching in the areas of marriage and human sexuality. She tackles the toughest issues-premarital sex, contraception, divorce, homosexuality, internet pornography and others. She gives practical advice on living the Church's teachings. And throughout it all, she demonstrates that living respect for God's gift of sexuality is the way-the only way-to find real, honest love.
“If You Really Loved Me” by Jason Evert
Teens will find this book a useful guide to starting a relationship, deciding one's vocation, one day finding a potential spouse, and maintaining purity - without forsaking love. This book will give parents and educators new insights to help teens know the difference between love and lust. They may even look at their own lives differently, because as Evert explains, chastity is not only for singles; married couples must practice this virtue as well. "If You Really Loved Me" gives readers straight answers to tough questions. Addressing the relationship issues that today's young people face, Evert explains the often-misconstrued virtue of chastity - not as a rejection of human sexuality, but as an affirmation of authentic love.
“A Case for Chastity” by Heather Gallagher, Peter Vlahutin
In twenty-six short topical chapters, teens and young adults share their questions and real-life experiences about sexual relationships. Their questions range from "How far is too far?" to "What's wrong with cohabitation?" Two questions posed by many people of all ages both within and outside the Church are also treated: "Chastity sounds nice, but is it practical?" and "What do the Bible and celibate men know about sex anyway?" Teens will find A Case for Chastity a readable and informative book, and their parents and teachers, particularly catechists and DREs, will find it an invaluable resource.
“Pure Love” by Jason Evert
In an easy to read question and answer format, Pure Love is a great introduction to the topic of chastity. It is the ideal complement to classes on human sexuality. Rich with scriptural reference, this booklet is in complete compliance with the teachings of the Catholic Church.
What's the Big Deal About Pornography? By Dr. Jill C. Manning
Dr. Manning speaks directly to the young people she calls the “internet generation.” She discusses such topics as:
- What is pornography?
- How does pornography affect people?
- Can pornography teach me things about sexuality that I need to know in the future?
- What do I do if I can't stop looking at pornography?
- What do I do if someone I know can't stop looking at pornography?
- 11 suggestions teens should talk to their parents about.
Faith and Safety: A resource guide brought to you by a collaboration between The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops and The Greek Orthodox Archdiocese of America that assists parents in understanding current technology and how to protect our children on the internet and tips and resources form internet safety.
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children : A resource for internet safety and programs for teachers and parents in educating children on internet dangers and protecting children from those dangers.
Covenant Eyes is a company offering internet accountability software for computers, phones and more in addition to offering support to those with internet addictions including articles on internet and pornography addiction, resources for parents , spouses, ministry and more.
Chastity Project Project is a ministry of Jason and Crystalina Evert that promotes the virtue of chastity through seminars, resources, clubs, and social media. This includes resources for parents and their teens/young adults on dating, chastity, vocations and more.
Morality In Media directs the War on Illegal Pornography coalition, an effort with Congress to pressure the U.S. Department of Justice to enforce existing federal obscenity laws. MIM also maintains a research website about the harms of pornography and regularly directs national awareness campaigns to help the public understand the consequences of pornography and find resources to aid in their struggles.
Net Nanny® is parental controls software that protects your family from pornography, online predators, cyberbullying, and much more, keeping your family safe online.
Parenting the Internet Generation is an ebook that will show parents how to have honest conversations about self-image, sexuality, sin and shame, provide proven methods for training children how to be media literate and much more!
TeenSafe – App that helps parents track their children’s online activities, has a GPS component that allows you to track where your child is, see deleted texts/IM’s, see Instagram posts, and other monitoring functions, gives updates on all new technology apps as well.
Theology of the Body for Teens is a dynamic faith formation program for teens and pre-teens in Catholic schools, parish youth ministries, Religious Education, Confirmation, and homeschool settings. Using a great mix of stories, real-life examples, activities, prayers, and relevant references to the culture, it goes beyond traditional chastity programs by connecting the two hottest topics on the planet--God and sex. With Blessed Pope John Paul II's compelling vision for love and life, and a language they understand, Theology of the Body for Teens answers the questions teens and pre-teens have about their own bodies, issues on sexual morality, and how they are uniquely created for greatness.
Familiy Honor provides and promotes a family-centered Catholic approach to chastity education.
“Pornicious: The Impact of Pornography on Children and Families”. The premise of this paper is “that pornography is a threat infinitely greater to our children, marriages, and families than even smoking is; and that they simply cannot wait five decades to reverse course.”
Matt Fradd is a Catholic apologist and speaker. His web site discusses many topics on defending the faith and its truths including exposing the truth of the damage that pornography does to a person, their family, and the vocations that they are called to.
Courage is an international apostolate of the Catholic Church, which ministers to persons with same-sex attractions. They offer support , resources, resources for clergy that minister to those with same sex-attraction, and a support group called EnCourage that offers guidance in understanding and supporting their loved ones who experienced same-sex attractions.
Desert Stream/Living Waters Ministries provides help for Christians struggling with sexual and relational problems. Our help is based on the biblical foundation of compassion, integrity, and dependence on God.
That Man is You! is an interactive, multimedia men’s program focused upon the development of authentic male leadership. Over the course of three years, That Man is You! successively considers men in their relationship to God, to their spouse and to their children. Programs are offered throughout the Diocese of Springfield, Il .
World Wide Marriage Encounter: “At a Worldwide Marriage Encounter, the original and continually updated marriage enrichment program, you get away from the distractions of everyday life and focus on each other. Instead of simply listening to lectures about how to improve your marriage, you will actually be improving your marriage.”
Real Love - With an engaging, lively style filled with a spirit of hope and truth, Mary Beth Bonacci has captured hearts and minds across the United States and internationally since 1986. She delivers her message on love, relationships, and chastity with a candor and a sincerity that addresses the hopes and dreams at the center of our longing for fulfillment and love. Through her extensive travels, she has spoken to groups, small and large, including 75,000 young people at World Youth Day in Denver.
Pure Hope - They equip individuals, families, and churches to pursue sexual purity and oppose sexual exploitation. Resources in parenting, justice, and recovery
Illinois Attorney General Website - In today’s world, many people choose to communicate via the Internet and cell phones. Youth especially have embraced new technologies such as text messaging, social networking sites, and digital cameras to share information and connect with friends. However, without proper guidance, these types of communication technologies can be dangerous to a child’s physical and psychological well-being.
To help inform parents and educators about our children’s online activities and to assist in their efforts to educate our youth regarding responsible and safe online behavior, the Attorney General’s Office provides the following resources:
Stay Connected, Stay Informed Website - The Attorney General created the Stay Connected, Stay Informed website to provide parents, teachers, and students with the latest news and information about digital safety. It also features the E-Info Hotline, which is a phone- and Web-based resource staffed by the Attorney General’s Internet safety specialists.
BeSure Consulting and Teen Drug Testing - Detective Richard Wistocki has been in law enforcement for 27 years with the last 21 years dedicated to internet crimes. He has resources and webinars for parents and children to protect themselves and learn more about Cyber Bullying, Social Networking, Video Websites, Instant Messaging, Sexing, sextortion, file sharing, gaming platforms, sexual predators, and financial predators. He also has recommendations for computer and phone monitoring and programs and has codes for free trials when you sign up through his website.
WebWatcher - WebWatcher, the #1 rated Parental & Employee Monitoring Software, offers a full family of monitoring software compatible with PC, Mac, iPhone, Android & BlackBerry. All WebWatcher products install easily in 5 minutes or less, are undetectable (and thus tamper proof) and all recorded data is sent to a secure web-based account which allows you to monitor kids and employees at your convenience from any computer. WebWatcher allows you to monitor multiple devices (such as a PC and an iPhone) from the same user interface so you get one unified view. Go through BeSure Consulting and Teen Drug Testing for special discounts/offers/codes.
MyMobile Watchdog – Many advantages form reports, locations, deleted texts/pics, app control, time blocking, contacts, calls, and monitoring of childrens phones. If you go through BeSure Consulting and Teen Drug Testing you will get a promo code for 6 months free and a negotiated rate of 4.95 a month. (Promotion code 6 mo freeTDS4kids)
FoneHome – track and recover lost or stolen device